Do I need this rule in my head?

Part of counselling is listening out for rules we have, that are out of date and get in our way. Often established when we were young, perhaps they've been there so long we don't notice them anymore. Perhaps they were set when we were frightened, so it feels threatening to challenge them. But now they stop us doing things and we feel trapped, without knowing why.

Through sessions we can identify these rules, and see if they still serve a purpose. As an adult, you can choose now whether to keep them - and when and how to let go.